When one of the co-practitioners of our Course in Miracles/Course of Love group was on vacation recently, with his new grandson in his lap, he sent me a text saying, “Love this paragraph”, with a picture of a paragraph, circled in ink by him, from the last page of a chapter in my book, A Holy Relationship: The Memoir of One Couple’s Transformation. It is Chapter 10, Non-Judgment: Getting Out of Prison – Barbara’s Way. The font in the picture is too small to easily read so I’ll write the words underneath the picture. Here is the picture: Here are the words in that paragraph: The Absence of Fear When the perceptions …..
+ = It is for Course in Miraclers and Course of Lovers and all those that are not blocked by thought, or perception, or concept, or belief, or judgment, which are all the same. It is a love story about two people that were determined to know each other as themselves, God as themselves, and themselves as God, and how they got there. The muse of the couple was an entity expressed in this lifetime as a female. Her name was Barbara. The sage of the couple was an entity expressed in this lifetime as a male. His name was Jimmie. Their story is found in the memoir dedicated to the …..
On the day that my life partner, Barbara, and I moved in together she had a tiny plant, about a foot tall, that she called Benjamin Fig (Ficus Benjamina). That was August, 1988. I knew what a Ficus plant was because I once had one in my office and it was big. I commented that I had never seen such a small Ficus plant. She told me that she bought the plant in August, 1972 when she moved into an apartment with a bunch of girls just off the L.S.U. campus in Baton Rouge. And she said the plant had never grown, not even an inch, for those 16 years. Within …..
Dear Reader, Known or Unknown Friend, Perhaps this poem, which poured out of my heart on May 25th, 2015, as I know that your heart also pours, will be of help to you on this path of waking up to Who and What you are. And in the purest of humbleness, I offer for your consideration that you move through its words at the pace of a snail, with the strength of a bulldozer, so that you might dig up the depth of your own inner soil and find your meaning in these words. And if it will help you, perhaps comfort you or excite you or validate you, to share …..
My deceased partner, Barbara, used to talk about taking baby steps. Yet she was always taking giant leaps. She leaped out of high school into living in Eileen Ford’s home and became a model for the Ford Modeling Agency walking the streets of New York with a portfolio under her arms. When a man would brake her heart she didn’t shut down, she would leap into another relationship as a stepping stone to finding her real mate. She leaped out of a six figure income into becoming a relationship therapist with me and I leaped out of the stock market with her and we soared. It was in 1976 when I first …..
Every time I read that truism from A Course in Miracles I have the best cry. And this moment is no exception. It feels like what was an ancient belief stuck inside of me has dissolved and been expressed physically as tears. That’s why I never, ever, wipe my tears. Instead, I just feel them. I let them run. And it always feels so gloriously good. Even the most severe tears I’ve ever had, those that were produced from the deep mourning after my loving partner, Barbara, left the physical. And that because I felt them fully and underneath them was always, every time, the most glorious outpouring of love that …..
“The more we hide our fears inside of the deep unconscious recesses of our mind, the greater they become. It is our belief that what we are hiding can hurt us that actually hurts us. It is the belief we have about ourselves that we are unlovable or not enough or any other fearful belief about ourselves, that hurts us. And, paradoxically, the more energy we use to cover up and hide our false beliefs from ourselves, the fear gets stronger and the more it hurts us. Conversely, when we are vulnerable enough to open ourselves wide open and look at our fears, paradoxically, the fear begins to dissipate, to …..
When I was a young kid learning how to make money and create the life I wanted through helping people, one of the three truisms I had on my office wall was this this one: “For every adversity, there is the seed of at least an equal, or greater, benefit.” Ralph Waldo Emerson, the Sage of Concord
Who are you? What do you want? What parts of you don’t believe that? Let those parts go. It is you that is hanging onto them. They have become part of your identity. Is that really who you are? Let those parts go. More than anything else in the whole world: What do you want? See yourself in possession of what you want. Transform the wanting to a knowing. Wanting comes from lack and is in the future. Knowing comes from the truth of your inner being and is now. Birth your vision. Take baby steps or giant leaps, whichever resonates with you. Take only steps that keep you in your …..